Marriage is everything you make it to be. Each day you must wake and CHOOSE to love the same person. Deal with their daily ups and downs while still saying “it’s you I want to spend my life with”. And that’s all marriage is.! Each day won’t be pretty and that’s why God, gave us scripture. Meditate on these so they sit on your heart during moments of contention.
“I’m still married”. “We are still in love”. “I still want to work on this marriage”. All phrases I have had to say to myself during moments that weren’t so picture-perfect during or marriage. And there have been more than a few.
Curtis, and I have been married for almost 14 years and together for almost 2o years. So to say our marriage has been tested would be a HUGE understatement.
The good thing about marriage is God has joined us on this journey we call married life. He knew we could be quickly broken by man and in turn, gave us the word to secure us in his promise of two becoming one flesh.
Marriage Is Work
The major key I think most people miss, is God being the head of the marriage. If God, is not in the midst of it all, there will be no marriage to work at. I will tell you when I’m in my word and praying both alone and with my husband, our marriage just runs smoother.
Our interactions are deeper and more fulfilling and we can handle our petty conflict better. And yes sis, most times our arguments are petty. Petty with the background being the bigger problem.
We’ve argued about things such as jealousy, the kitchen being dirty, all the way down to me wearing a shirt of his. Each time I must take a moment to notice the amount of time I’ve spent with God that day, week, or even month. It always seems we argue during the times I feel the furthest away from God.
This had to change so we had fewer interactions with contentions. So, I created a list of 5 bible verses that quickly brought me closer to God; during times my marriage isn’t as picture-perfect as I would like it to be.
Lets Ge Into It
5 Bible Verses For Wives
John 15:12-14 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.
This first verse just warms my heart and gets me ready to love again. God loves me enough to call me a friend and has commanded me to love my friends the same way he loves me. For me, this means I should be loving my husband on an even stronger, greater, and deeper level. As he is my ultimate best friend.
It all starts and ends with love. Even in the midst of an argument or moment of feeling unloved or not loving toward your spouse.
Philippians 2:3-5 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each should look not only to their own interests but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.”
When reading the word of God, I must ask myself am I treating my marriage as Christ would? Am I loving not only my husband but myself the way Christ would? Am I giving grace, being patient. kind and loving like Christ?
All of the above a purely necessary for a loving and successful marriage. Each day you have to check-in with yourself and then check-in with your husband to ensure you are giving them all they need and want through tough times, they will come.
Love will get you through it
1 corinthians 13:13 And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.
During the times I’m arguing with my husband over something petty or something I know really means nothing I have to remember the love between us. It’s easy to go down the rabbit hole and stay mad as they did something that hurts. It’s not easy to forgive when you think your right but it’s easy to forgive when you are acting in love.
Matthew 22:37 “Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment.
Oh yes, another scripture on LOVE; I mean its why you got married right? If we lead with the love of Christ what can go wrong? I find that my marriage and my household just runs better when I’m nurturing my relationship with God.
When I pour into God, he pours back into me and my family. To me, this is the reason the psalms 31 woman verse came to fruition. It’s not easy being a woman and it’s definitely not easy being a wife but our energy and work ethic affect our families in more ways than one.
Ephesians 4:31-32 “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
Yep, this one hits the heart hard. How many times have you let your anger lead you in your day as a wife? How many times have you been so bitter that you didn’t smile or talk to your husband for days?
I’m guilty of each of the above. knowing what I know now after 13 years of marriage, and almost 20 years of us being together I would do it differently. Life is to short to walk around angry, tight, and mad at the one you love. Now, I talk to him about what I’m feeling, I take time to talk to God and meditate on what I should say.
It Gets Better
I won’t tell you that you’ll never get angry or your flesh won’t flair up. I will tell you you can choose to handle each time differently. You can work on the things you know to help your marriage. Marriage is a labor of love and you have to work at it each day to make it beautiful
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