What does the bible say about anger in marriage? This a question I’ve searched for and personally asked myself several times when in strenuous situations in my marriage. We know there will be times in your marriage when married couples will become angry with each other.
If your marriage struggles with anger issues and needs restoration prayer focus, you may want to check 5 Strong Scriptures To Pray On Marriage Restoration.
People go into marriage thinking that marital bliss is all they’ll have, but most human beings face adversity in their marriage. At the same time, most of your days will be filled with smiles and love.
There will be times of contention when you need to lean on the righteousness of God to carry your marriage through. If you’re leading with love and God’s word, you change your marriage each day.
Please note: The day you come into a subject that you don’t agree on shouldn’t be the end of all of your marriage.
How To Deal With Anger In Your Marriage
Many situations can affect the way married couples handle anger in their marriage. From past interactions to parental traumas, arguments can arise for many reasons. Finding a solution to them quickly can help you build a healthy relationship with your spouse.
There will, of course, be moments when anger rises… the one thing most of us forget is our vows state that “for better or for worse,” why do we think worse will never come?
We are sold a fairy tale of beautiful bliss of tuxes and shited dresses and a host of people waiting in the winds to support us. That is not the case in marriage; there are two of you behind those four walls. With the love of Christ, you have a threefold cord to help stabilize your marriage.
Yes, the Holy Spirit is the backbone of every marriage, the resolver of every argument, and the number one source to resolve anger in your marriage.
How To Pray For Your Spouse When Your Angry
Prayer is the source of your strength during anger; the lord leads us in prayers, whether silent or boisterous. God hears our hearts.
20 Bible Sciroptures To Pray When Angry
Ephesians 4:26, 31: “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold… get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.
Proverbs 19:11: A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.
James 1:19-20: My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
Colossians 3:19: Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
Proverbs 15:18: A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel.
Ephesians 5:33: However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Proverbs 19:11: A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.
Psalm 37:8: Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
Psalm 7:11: God is a righteous judge, and a God who feels indignation every day.
Genesis 2:18: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Deuteronomy 1:37: Even with me the Lord was angry on your account and said, ‘You also shall not go in there.
Ecclesiastes 7:9: Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.
Colossians 3:8: But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
Proverbs 17:14: helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.
Proverbs 29:11: A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
Ephesians 5:31: Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
Ephesians 4:32: Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
Ezekiel 16:42: So will I satisfy my wrath on you, and my jealousy shall depart from you. I will be calm and will no more be angry.
1 Peter 4:8: Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.
Ephesians 5:21: Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Questions we ask ourselves about anger in marriage:
What does the bible say about a toxic spouse? God does not give us a spirit of fear but of courage and a sound mind. A toxic spouse can create a space of fear where one feels uncomfortable communicating or sharing personal needs.
When your spouse is displaying toxic traits, be sure to take note of actions that are triggering you. Begin to pray about your needs and ask God for words to share that will touch their heart.
When there is a space for you to be vulnerable, discuss how your spouse’s actions make you feel with them.
What does the Bible say about hard times in your marriage?
There is no way around trials in your marriage, be it communication, raising children, or evolving into a more mature version of yourself. There will be some things that test the limits of your love for one of another.
The Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:25 What strikes me about this verse is “gave himself up for her” in marriage, you are in a constant state of giving yourself up for your spouse. You will have to choose to love, choose to move forward, and choose to shift your perspective.
What does the Bible say about resolving conflict in a marriage?
The Bible says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1). Conflict rises, and the best way to combat the flesh is first to take your cares to the alter.
Personally, one of the best ways my husband and I have handled conflict is to remember how we want to be handled during the conflict. Yes, we have both lost our temper during an argument, but we circle back with love.
What does the bible say about being angry with your spouse?
Ephesians 4:26-27 — ” Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”
This scripture is written o my heart… I think about it often when my anger is taking over, and I want to sit in it because I feel like my spouse should feel the wrath of my anger.
Yes, I’ve done the turn your back in the bed move… but that doesn’t help us solve the problem. Now I like to tell myself, “Let’s shift the atmosphere” I tend to silently pray and ask God to share how to remove the anger from my thoughts.
What does god say about angry husbands?
Psalm 37:8 — “Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.”
The Bible says that men should refrain from anger; as I shared earlier, the Bible also stated that men should LOVE their wives like Christ loves the church… But what does that mean?
When I think about how Christ loves the church, I think about the care it takes to grow, strengthen and build a healthy church. I think about the attention it takes and how you must show up each day to take steps towards the church’s mission. I think of sweet, sweet care.
What comes to mind when you think about how Christ Loves the church? Could you share with me in a comment below?
On A Personal Note:
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. True righteousness comes when rainy days are long and hard. Anger arose in our marriage after the children came, and we had to split our time.
It takes time to learn how to balance marriage, parenthood, or life, for that matter. As a wife, I had to take time to remember how important my marriage was to me… I was consumed by motherhood. We had to take the issue to our Christian counselor and implement the steps they gave us.
With us marrying young (21.22), we grew up together and have had to evolve as we grew older. (More about marriage)
There have been many ups and downs, but the one thing that keeps us close to each other is our love for God. Our friendship carry’s our love to greater heights and helps us manage our anger.
Practical Steps To Take When Angry with your Spouse
- Build a personal relationship with the Holy Spirit to guide you through your day.
- Read God’s word. Staying full of God’s words helps us to choose a healthy way to choose our words wisely. Download the BIBLE APP to keep the word on your cell phone.
- Once you download the BIBLE APP you can schedule alerts and do a planned bible study on anger.
- God desires us to take time to love each over, giving nuggets of positivity for when the moments of contention come.
- Remember, every day will not be the BEST day of your marriage trials will come, and your marriage can get through them.
- Remember that you’re building something special, and each time you pray and handle each other with the LOVE of God, he blesses your marriage.
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. —Ephesians 4:2–3
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